Judgment: How It Can Help You

I have noticed that some people do not like the word Judgment. We often think that it is not part of our natural state of Peace & Love, and that it needs to be erased from our consciousness. But I believe it can play a positive role in our lives

I've found 3 ways to use Judgment to gain more Peace & Joy:

1. Judgment helps us choose: It can be very helpful to know what you don't want - to rule that out and move towards what you do. Don’t be afraid to say "I don't really like that. I prefer _____." Without any judgment at all, everything from buying groceries to setting lifestyle intentions becomes nearly impossible. Knowing what is most important to us, and choosing one thing over another is a good thing.

2. Judgment helps us let go: During moments of nostalgia and/or anxiety about relationships that have ended, remind yourself why you are now choosing something else. By adding a small dose of judgment, you'll be more likely to remember the situation broadly and objectively instead of wistfully reminiscing about individual memories. It can help in the moving-on process to articulate the deal-breaker that you will not choose again.

3. Judgment helps us see red-flags: Perhaps a situation is triggering your sensitive issues, but maybe, just maybe, there is something about the situation that isn't right for you and your Judgment is letting you know. When you feel judgment coming up, it can be a signal to check-in before proceeding further. Sometimes you'll discover you want to proceed, other times not.