How to Stop Others From Draining You

Do you feel that some people drain your energy and others leave you feeling full and loved? You are not imagining it. Neither are you alone in this. Many people are not aware of how their energetic fields affect those around them, therefore they drain others, are constantly drained by others, or both. It’s (usually) not that they consciously want to cause anyone harm, they just don’t understand what is happening. We fall prey to it because we don’t know or remember to protect ourselves.

I’ve heard teachers in the past say you have to protect yourself by imagining you are surrounded by an invisible armor of some sort. Some say you have to protect yourself by not being around the person at all and guarding your heart and body from their tentacles that want to come in and feed off your light and joy. Here is something I’ve found that works brilliantly for me. This practice does not just protect me; it feels good. I call it “Unguarded Protection.” It’s one of the 44 practices we teach in The E-Spot Experience: The Art of Feminine Presence™. I can keep my heart open, my mind open, and my body open while I am in the presence of this person, and be comfortable. It even tends to transform them so they do not feel the unconscious need to drain me in the first place.

The first part of this practice is to “be inside” your body by bringing your attention to the center point of your pelvis. When your attention is here it centers you and helps you be present and “in the moment.” When you inhabit your pelvis no one else can get in there. It’s like a baseball player running to the next base. If he is on that base no one else can get on, technically, at least.
Many of us “jump out of our body” when we feel as though someone wants to attack us or intimidate us with their projected sense of power, or look at us with predatory, sexual energy. It’s critical that we stay in our bodies. Keep bringing your attention to the sensations inside your pelvis to ground you. I often say to myself, “I’m home, so no one else is getting in here.”

Next, feel your energetic “light globe” around your body. What I mean is feel your energetic presence that surrounds you and extends out a little past an arms length. Fill this light globe with sparkles of light, and notice where the edge of your light globe is.

When I simulate someone coming into one of my student’s energy fields and draining them, and the student responds by staying “home” in their pelvis with their “light globe” shining brightly, an amazing thing happens every time. The person trying to drain the other energetically steps back, feeling the love coming from the student. There is a level of respect that wasn’t there before. The student feels only love towards that person, with no fear of being drained. It’s profound. This is why after a couple of years of practice I hardly have anyone trying to drain me anymore. I just don’t attract it.
With your attention on both of these points—being “home” in your pelvis and turning on your “light globe”— you can stay protected from people who drain you or have predatory energy. You never have to close your heart down, or defend your body by shutting yourself off to your own radiance and joy. You can stay big, bright, and open when you have this practice at hand. It’s all about practice.